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We are all living in a world full of problems. As such, we have developed a problem-solving mindset or mentality, naively believing that by solving others' problems, we could also solve our own. Nothing could be further from the truth.<br><br>First of all, how come we beset by problems of all sorts -- health, relationships, money, politics, and careers problems, among many others? It's because we are living in a complex world with complicated people and difficult circumstances. Where do these problems come from? They all come from our minds, which process our experiences, and they become our memories stored in our subconscious minds. These memories affect how we presently think, act, and react. We erroneously believe that we make our very own choices and decisions; the fact of the matter is the fact that our past memories control and direct, to a great extent, our conscious minds whenever we make our daily life choices and decisions.<br><br>The explanation is the fact that memories, both negative and positive ones, become our emotions, which ultimately create or become our problems -- even pleasant memories from the past. But how do pleasant memories cause us problems? To illustrate, if you have success in accomplishing something, the pleasant experience satisfies your ego, and that pleasant memory subconsciously makes you want to repeat your success in the future. That creates anticipation, as well as the requirement for more effort to guarantee the reality of that outcome in the future. The process may generate stress, frustration, and also disappointment -- the sources of more problems further in the future. If you look more deeply, the root cause of your problems is your ego, which you want to satisfy and protect; Without the ego, there will be no expectation, and no extra effort required to sustain that ego created by your memories, and, accordingly, there would be no stress. As a result, you or your ego is the cause of all of your problems, and you are 100 percent accountable for them. Let go the ego.<br><br>Along the way of solving our problems, we often make an effort to solve others' problems as well, believing that solving theirs may also be instrumental in solving ours as well, because we erroneously believe that their problems may partly be responsible for ours too. Again, that won't work. Why not? It's given that they, too, are 100 percent accountable for their own problems, just once we are responsible for ours. To illustrate, the Russians tried to solve the Ukrainians' problems through military intervention, while the Americans strove to solve the Russians' with sanctions; During the process, not only new problems are created, but also the original ones remain unsolved. Solving others' problems is tantamount to "controlling" which never works in real-life. To illustrate, if a stranger says something provocative to you, you then become angry; your anger is your problem, not the stranger's. You're not able to "control" exactly what the stranger says; your reaction may not even "stop" the provocation. So don't attempt to solve your problems - [http://periodicos.ftc.edu.br/index.php/index/user/viewPublicProfile/798450 Continued], another person's problems (the stranger might have mental issues); solve your own for starters, for example reacting negatively to the provocation or controlling your anger.<br><br>So, how do you solve your own problems without striving to solve others', or how do you stop believing that others' problems have become yours?<br><br>The answer is "awareness" or "mindfulness." The fundamental problem is the fact that we "allow" the thoughts of a past memory from our subconscious minds to tell us what to say, how to handle it, as well as the way to react. To put it differently, our past memories unconsciously control our conscious minds. and we do nothing to stop that. For this reason, in the event the stranger within the above illustration says something we "think" is provocative because we might have encountered similar experiences before, we act accordingly to what we did before or what our past memories tell us. If we had no past memories of similar incidents, we might have no anger. We are all judgmental; our minds remember what we did before and our action or reaction anticipates the expected outcome.<br><br>But once we become "aware" that it was no more than a memory, and not only a reality, we might think differently with different perspective. Problem-solving will be close to "awareness" -- what exactly is the problem? how serious is it? where does it come from? is there a solution (some problems have no solutions since they are beyond our control)? what is the solution to it?<br><br>"Awareness" or "mindfulness" lets us understand better our own problems and also those of others but without attempting to solve them ourselves. For the sake of illustration, the aggressive stranger mentioned previously might have had a bad-hair day under extreme stress (although that could not be a valid excuse for the aggressive behavior towards you); your "awareness" of your lack of information might change your reaction.<br><br>The bottom line: frequently we create our very own problems through our experiences, our mental interpretations of those experiences which have become our memories to continue to haunt us. Being within the present may go a considerable way to helping us have clarity of mind towards our problems without striving to solve those of others. Problem-solving may not solve problems.